Friday, December 2, 2011

Professional Judgment

My ears burn before my fast is broken, all before 8:00 a.m. most days Monday through Friday.  I’ve played through almost every album I own in attempts to drown out sounds of the volatile collision of immovable objects and unchangeable people.  Complaining, whining, moaning, groaning, call it what you please, but the reality most can experience in any office building across the world during business hours is employees expressing their extreme displeasure with something, or nothing in some cases, within their organization.  I’ve previously written about how each day you choose how you interact with external stimuli and the ultimate responsibility for your good or bad day lies upon yourself.  My focus now shifts to moving beyond just choosing what to think or feel and actually naturally accepting things more peacefully that our out of your control.

The interesting thing about comments I often hear or conversations (monologues really) I get drug into is that they all come from those in positions who do not have power or position to change anything.  Never, not once, have I heard anyone consider that maybe they are wrong and instead of focusing on how wrong others, especially those above them, are aiming their energies on positioning themselves to get to a place where they have control over decisions directly.  This is an entire topic of its own, but it is interesting that the worker bees always think the queen is not right, but obviously she is because she is the queen and has done something right to get there (in most cases).  I digress, however, to return to the topic at hand, accepting that which you cannot control. 

This has huge implications to your personal and professional life.  I don’t think the personal and professional life can be separated however; no one can live a duplicitous life.  Character revealed at work through a set of expressions is the same character that lives outside of work.  Employees are people and people do work, so really, this is all about people.  It happens in religion a lot too, intolerance and judgment, which is easy to call out, but I think judgment is the key factor behind behavior like those mentioned above.  The complaining of how things could be better and all the other things said that just sound like I’m in an episode of Charlie Brown are direct expressions of some form of arrogance and judgment.  What is judgment, in the context I am referring to?  Judgment is when an individual values their own perspective above all else.  Judgment is when an individual is convinced they are correct.  It is only when one is convinced of their own superior opinion or method when others seem so little and invaluable.  When someone does what an individual sees as correct or right because they are so convinced of their self it then becomes their dilemma and mission to change the dissimilar thought/opinion/method. When they fail in their mission they become frustrated because they cannot convince someone who is wrong of what is right, because in their mind, they have it figured out. 

This loss of control is maddening and is what leads to early morning rants at work, persecution, judgment, nit picking, aggregation, etc.  We end up behaving like the little snot nosed kid at the super market throwing a temper tamper over not getting the latest and greatest gadget they just have to have.  I am suggesting that if we do not consider ourselves right and think we must win in one form or another then we can begin to accept what we cannot control.  I cannot control anything but myself ultimately (and even that’s debatable) so why spend so much energy lamenting over things/people/work that we cannot control?  I’d like to think most would agree with this on a personal level, but doubt many would see its relevance to the professional world.  Professionally it matters because you see judgment causing havoc everywhere.  Go to any happy hour atmosphere any day of the week and just watch and listen.  Everyone is just complaining and gripping about this and that.  Truth be told what they are really saying is, “I am right, they are dumb, why can’t they see that?”  Wouldn’t things operate so much smoother in an office if people started just accepting things instead of judging?  This is not to say suggestions on improvements shouldn’t be made, however, constructive input is much different from destructive banter. If professionals learned how to accept things and tried to get involved instead of taking a back seat and complaining wouldn’t we see more production and less wasted talents?  Morale would sky rocket and efficiency would increase, all in all making that ever so cherished revenue boost. 

I speak of “professionals” and “they” a lot here, but do not at any point want to imply I am not included.  This is a daily challenge I take to work on.  I bring this up because I can see the benefit it would and can provide employers and employees.  But then again, maybe I should just accept that they don’t and keep it moving right?  Do you have a tough time accepting?  Would we be willing to candidly consider ourselves wrong, ever?  Isn’t acceptance better than arrogance and judgment?

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