Monday, December 3, 2007

One is the Loneliest Number


I was flipping through the channels last night in my boredom and cam across a little diamond in the rough of a quote in a place I would never expect to find. I stopped on this overly dramatic reality show on VH1 and listened to this girl cry about leaving a person she thought she was falling in love with. Her brilliance sounded a little something like this, “It’s scary to being loved when you are not used to being loved, you don’t know what to do and make a lot of mistakes.” Wow, is this some abstract expression of the human dilemma with God? I know this emotional girl had no idea her comment would be full of subconscious meanings, but it is a really deep, often ignored problem within the nature of humanity. We are not used to being loved! Look around, read the internet, a magazine, listen to the radio, it’s all around us, this idea that we must earn love somehow. We live in a world driven by greed and selfishness. Many people live and die by this unfortunate little motto, “You got to look out for numero uno, you can’t trust anybody.” What a horrible way to live. We protect ourselves and build walls up between relationships, scar our wrist, hate our parents, work ourselves into social comas, and constantly have this yearning to be accepted, to be loved. Everyone in one abstract form or another is looking for love and acceptance in everything we do. He works as much as he can to provide for his wife so his in-law’s will accept him, she exposes more and more skin in her wardrobe so they boys will love her, they hide their weaknesses so their parents won’t think they are failures. On and on the agony goes, it’s like a ugly carnival ride that just spins in circles and never stops.
Fortunately for some of us it has stopped and for all of us it can. There is only one source of true acceptance and love with no strings attached. You don’t have to somehow prove yourself or make yourself acceptable. God’s love is unconditional. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him (John 3:16-17[NIV]).” Unconditional love is hard to put our minds around. I am convinced that if a wife were to ask her husband, “honey why do you love me,” and his response were, “no reason I just do,” there would be a problem. We need reasons! We need to know why we are loved so we can keep doing whatever it is that makes us loved. We are beings that thrive off of earning and proving ourselves in order to get love or acceptance. So I can fell this girls pain; we don’t know what to do when we are not used to being love and we suddenly are, we make big mistakes and do dumb things!

Maybe the reason why this world is in an uproar when it comes to God is because we don’t know how to deal with unconditional love. It’s so hard for us to accept that God loves us and all we have to do is trust that through Christ. All God requires of us is trust and faith. He doesn’t require more makeup, more skin, more this, more that, or anything more than what He offers and that is unconditional love. This could be a much bigger blog, but for time and space sake, I’ll leave it with you to resolve within yourself. Are you fighting this dilemma? Are you struggling with accepting a love you are not used to? I invite you to trust I Him! He loves you whether you can understand it or not, he just wants your trust!

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