Saturday, August 4, 2007

I hate you stupid looser!

Seriously, is that necessary? I mean the title of this post… Nothing like walking into a room full of friends and getting the good ol’ masculine, “Hey you suck!” greeting. Why do we feel it is necessary to tear each other down with discouraging words? The general response is, “Come on man, you know I’m just kidding with you.” It seems like when you become really close you are some how allowed to discourage your friends but say it is a really a way of endearment. Am I the only one who feels drained after hanging out with the certain friends that love to horse around and just give you a rough time all the time? If I knew that becoming a close friend with people would give them the false idea that it is some how acceptable to be discouraging I would have held back from anything further in the friendship to begin with. I must be sensitive right? Well, yes and no. I tend to just let the discouragement roll off my shoulders most days, but there are those days when the joking affects me and I get my feelings hurt. The most hurting part is that the discernment is coming from my brothers in Christ! We love to focus on things like homosexuality, stealing, murdering, and lying as sin, but why not discouragement? I think Paul had something to say about this…

“Do not use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them (Ephesians 4:29, NLT).”

I think James had something to say about they way we speak to each other too…

“We can make a large horse turn around and go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a tiny rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot wants it to go, even though the winds are strong. So also, the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do. A tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And the tongue is a flame of fire (James 3:3-6, NLT).”

So is it necessary to great a friend with a punch in the stomach and a discouraging statement? If the tongue is that powerful, why would you use it to be discouraging, especially among friends? I fall victim to my tongue all the time and feel it is time to take a stand against masculine, negative, discouraging talk, play, or greetings, especially among brothers or sisters in Christ. I pray God continues to change my tongue and I would think before I submit command to my ship or horse to a discouraging word off my tongue.

Please don’t just blow this off… Think about it, stop the discouragement…

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